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Updated 30 October 2017

MY STORY: I found out my man of over a year was engaged via Instagram

After investing over a year with the man she thought was going to marry her, DRUM reader Sipho (not real name) almost committed suicide because of their break up.

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A few weeks ago I broke up with a man I thought was 'the one' and it was devastating.I recently found out that the man that I've been dating for more than a year is engaged to a lady he's been with for over three years.

When we met He told me that he has been single for 18 months and I believed him.I got to meet his brother and his friend,and they've never mentioned anything about him being in a relationship. I was 19 when I met him and as this was my first relationship I gave it my all only to find out that I'm just the other woman.

I found out about his fiancee on instagram,I didn't confront him I just pretended as if everything is fine though I was hurting inside.I figured that I had to deal with accepting that he's ENGAGED to be married before i could talk to him.

As if the pain of finding out he was engaged wasn't enough I also got to find out on social media again that they are expecting a child before the end of this year. My soul was shattered and the only thing I could think of was committing suicide. It's hard for me to come to terms that the one i gave my all to hurt me this way.

I had to break things off even though I still love him and it's hard to me to hate him,I still feel like I deserved it.Who dates a guy who is 12 years older and expect them to be single? I was blind and I believed that he was working when he didn't have time for me little did I know that when he would disappear for more weeks he was with his fiancee.

When I finally got the courage to ask him about the fiance before I broke things off he denied everything. I had pictures and videos I showed him on Instagram that were posted recently by the fiance but he still denied it.

I'm hurt, but I am slowly healing. I've learned my lesson to stay away from older guys.

 
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