Our expert says:
OK> He's a lousy excuse for a husband, showing no respect for you, himself, or his other women. But he keeps doing this because he finds it fun and you allow him to get away with it.
How can you still believe his empty promises when each previous set of promises have turned out to be lies ? And he doesn't get to assess what "counts" as an affair - any emotional or flirtatious relationship with any woman other than you, is an affair.
STOP FORGIVING HIM ! Its not compulsory, but many a good person would forgive someone once for making a relationship mistake. But beyond that, each "forgiving" is an encouragement and a form of applause.
STOP paying the expenses, and STOP supporting his mom or any other family member - that is his responsibility, and if he took it seriously he'd have less time and money to waste on affairs.
It is damaging for kids to be exposed at length to someone who behaves as scornfully as he does, and they are much less damaged by a properly managed divorce. You are allowing him to teach them this his is a fine way to behave. It isn't. Consult a good lawyer and protect yourself and the kids.
As Liza implies, spend the money you waste on him and his family on seeing a counsellor to heal your self-respect and self-confidence.
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