Our expert says:
Nice people often feel guilty for the awful things someone else did --- a sad fact, and unhelpful, as it doesn't only feel bad, but it helps to encourage the bad guys to avoid feeling appropriately guilty for the bad things they chose to do.
Face the facts that he was a loser who was prepared to drag you down with him, and that you have been truly lucky to escape from him and to have the opportunity to get on with a happier life, free from being dragged down by this loser. Don't waste time or enegery feeling sorry for him --- his type spend more than enough time feeling sory for themselves, and not enopugh time putting right the things they have damaged.
Your feelings are appropriate and normal, though uncomfortable ---anger is natural in such a situation. Concentrate, with the help of a counsellor or a good friend or family member, on learning the best lessons from this bad experience, so as to be better able to avoid this sort of thing in future, express your anger ( in private ) and get on with the much happier and freer life you deserve, leaving him behind, where he deserves to be.
Wings and the others have made wise comments, as usual, and worth thinking over.
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