Our expert says:
I understand why you might think of suing someone who has been behaving towards you in a way you found hurtful. But think carefully about what response would be most useful for you.
Remember the absolute truth : whenever anyone sues anyone, the only people who ALWAYS win and who make money out if it, are the lawyers on both sides. Even in situations where someone has been mean and nasty, it can be hard to prove that this happened, and then to prove that it substantially damaged you.
The first question anyone would ask, would be: well, why didn't you / don't you, just leave him ? Why did you choose to spend 8 years living with someone who is abusive towards you every day ? You are not compelled to live with someone who behaves like that.
In fact, in law there is a concept that would say that by continuing for so long to live with such a person, you have been condoning his behaviour ( you've been behaving as though it was OK to do what he was doing ) and encouraging him to continue in that way.
So set aside for now the issue of suing him : start with a diagnosis, not with a treatment. What is wrong ? What needs to be changed ? What would be best for you ? Use time with your psychiatrist or psychologist / counsellor to talk through your options. how you can leave an abuser and make your own way in life, and make wiser decisions that will be more likely to benefit you.
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