Our expert says:
Hmm. Some thoughts. You seem to be saying that the pair of you were young and immature when you married, but you seem to have been reasonably happily married for some 20 years. But then you say "all of a sudden" things he does, apparently sexual responses to you, disturb you. Something has changed, fairly recently, according to your description. What might this be ? What else has changed ? Have you had other unpleasant experiences, or reasons to suspect him of being unfaithful, or maybe a developing depression, which often has the effect of reducing your interest in sex ?
When you say you "fell out of love" : were you ever very definitely in love ?
Has his behaviours changed markedly, or is it your reaction to his usual behaviours, that has changed ?
You say nothing about his point of view. Have you discussed these concerns with him ? Is he aware of how you feel ?
You're right to have some concern about the potential impact of a divorce on your teenage children, though an unhappy and hostile marriage can also have a negative impact. Why is it that you don't mention any attempt by you and your husband to work with proper expert advice, couples counselling, to see whether the issues troubling you an be solved ?
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