They say that when you turn 40 your life changes. Not only do you know who and what you are, you know what you like and dislike. Or so I thought… Zunia Boucher-Myers speaks out about her new found love with Karen Bentley.
I was ready for 40. Believing my quiet life to be just peachy...
Then my knight in shining armour arrived, ahem, make that, dyke in shining armour. Hell, talk about life changing! Hitting the wall running…
Larger than life, with a smile that made me realise I was standing in the rain. Cupid’s arrow, a bull’s eye to the heart and my life changed forever. Work, home, church – nothing untouched or unaffected.
In retrospect I realise now that my enthusiasm and joy was challenging for some and hard to accept or understand for others. I was filled with undiluted love for the first time in my adult life and I wanted family and friends to be happy for me.
Be true to yourself. You will be surprised by who stays and who leaves your life. The ones you expect to stay are generally not the ones that do.
Do not lose yourself in silence or fear. Hiding behind a wall of silence robs you of true connection with family, friends, work colleagues and church family.
Only surround yourself with people that enhance your life.
The dust will settle. Life goes on. Somebody else will take the spotlight off you in time.
Share your fears and concerns with your partner. Locking her out is going to hurt you both in the long run.
Do not disconnect from your faith.
And lastly life is so short. Love so transient.
“Great love and great achievement require great risk.” (Zaakirah Rossier, Health24, March 2011)