Closets need air, yet we don’t always make time to open them! And of course, sometimes we feel as if we can’t find the key to the door.
Imagine being a gay man in the lunchroom at work when co-workers are talking about all the fun they had during the weekend, and feeling that you cannot share what you did with your partner. You are likely to remain quiet and hope no one notices.
A closeted person may feel that they are drifting further and further apart from their family members or close friends because they are unable to share this important aspect of their lives.
A person in the process of coming out usually finds that this is a way for them to narrow the ever-widening gaps in their relationships. They often say that their coming out helps them live with integrity and feel closer to the people around them. Also, coming out is a way of reducing anxiety and removing shame that is often closely tied to secrecy.