Updated 27 November 2017

'How do I get him to trust me again?'

We broke up and made up over five years after we both cheated, now our trust for each other is gone

I’m 23 and my boyfriend is 30. We broke up and made up over five years after we both cheated.

Now our trust for each other is gone. I really love him and want to make it work. What do I do to show him I’ve really changed and I’m willing to work things out this time?

Sis Dolly answers

Trust is fragile and once broken, it’s hard to restore.

The responsibility of rebuilding trust shouldn’t be yours alone: you both cheated and should both be working on rebuilding your relationship.

This will be a huge task, so you’ll need the help of a professional. I suggest you consult a relationship counsellor in your area or call Famsa’s national office on 011-975-7106 for a centre near you.