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'Am I being used for sex?' — Ask sis Dolly

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Anonymous: "I'm a 30 year old lady who falls in love with guys but they only date me for sex and leave afterwards. I also have a child and I'm tired of changing guys.

"I think I have to stop but I can't. Please help me."

Sis Dolly answers:

Why can't you stop? Why do you find this pattern of behaviour fulfilling? sadly, you have become comfortable with it.

It somehow affirms you and confirms that this is either what gives you worth and value, or it is all that you deserve. But the fact that you're asking for help means you're ready to shift and change this pattern of behaviour. Start saying "no" when guys ask you for sex.

The one that's worth it and recognises your worth and value will stick around for when you're ready to take that step. We teach people how to treat us.

Somehow you're putting a message out that this is how people should treat you. Start valuing yourself more and you'll see that people treat you differently because you're worthy, and because you, yourself, believe it.

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