HE THINKS I’LL LEAVE HIM
Question
I am a 47-year-old woman in love with a 58-year-old man. He has a small manhood and it’s not a problem as I have accepted him as he is and enjoy our love making. The problem is his insecurities. When I try to explain how much I love him and that I wouldn’t leave him, he does not believe me. What do I do to reassure him that I would not leave him because of the size of his manhood?
ANONYMOUS, DURBAN
Answer
It’s a lot of hard work to try to heal a person from pain they experienced in the past. This is his responsibility, not yours. You cannot do this work for him. And if you keep doing his work for him, you will grow resentful, angry and exhausted. He will never need to change. He is not hearing you. Live your own life, showing your love. Let him know when you are bored with the conversation. I recommend he goes for therapy.
