You know you’ve had an
amazing sex dream when you wake up feeling ridiculously happy. If only you
could make it happen every night, right?! In a perfect world, you would. But in
the real world (sigh), you pretty much get the dream you get, including the one
where you’re naked in your school cafeteria.
While you might never be able to fully control your dreams, it’s
absolutely possible to train yourself to have more sex dreams, says Dr W.
Christopher Winter, a board-certified sleep medicine researcher, neurologist of Charlottesville
Neurology and Sleep Medicine, and author of The
Experts don’t know exactly what causes sex dreams, but it’s
generally thought that dreams have something to do with what’s on your mind,
either consciously or subconsciously. Sex dreams, then, could be a reflection
of what you’ve been thinking about during the day or even repressed desires,
says Dr Winter.
There are obvious perks to having sex dreams, like getting laid
without needing to lift a finger (kinda), but sex dreams can also help you
relax, lower your stress levels, and give you a sense of calm when you wake up,
says Dr Jess O’Reilly, a sexologist and author of The New Sex Bible.
They can also help give you greater insight into your sexual desires and
inspire fantasies to act out with your partner later, she explains.
With all those potential benefits, it’s clear why you’d
want to have as many sex dreams as humanly possible (as if you needed to be
convinced). These tips might actually make it happen more often.
1. Think sexy thoughts
Because your dreams are usually some kind of reflection of your thoughts
when you’re awake (whether you’re aware of them or not), thinking about sex
during the day can translate into your dreams at night. “If you can constantly
remind yourself of the topic, you’ll be better off,” says Dr Winter.
Read more: 4 common sex dreams – and exactly what they mean
2. Visualise your perfect dream
Think about your perfect sex dream and actually picture that
fantasy playing out. “The more you can make it seem real, the more likely you
are to have that dream at night,” says Dr Winter.
3. Act it out IRL
Dreams tend to reflect what’s going on in your life, so it doesn’t
hurt to try to play out your fantasy (as best you can) while you’re awake, says
Dr Winter. While you can do this all in your mind, it can also be helpful to
set the stage – mood lighting, candles, sexy music, vibrator – and go to town. The
hope is that your body will pick up on the physical cues you give it and render
them again at night.
4. Slip into sexy lingerie
Besides acting your dream out IRL, you can trigger your brain into
having sexy night-time thoughts by sleeping in silky lingerie – or nothing at all.
“It’s important that when you go to bed, you have some kind of a routine for
setting yourself up for the dream,” says Dr Winter.
Read more: Your dreams about cheating are no reason to panic
5. Set up the dream as you’re lying in bed
Play out the dream, step by step, as you’re lying in bed, says Dr
Winter. Think about meeting someone at a hotel bar: what you’re wearing, what
they’re wearing, and what you’re discussing. Then, segue into the naughty part,
focusing on the details. At some point, you should drift off into (superhot)
6. Practice, practice, practice
It’s unlikely that you’re automatically going to have the sex
dream you want the first time you try (although if it does, awesome!). “You’ll
want to rehearse the same thing every night,” says Dr Winter. Don’t be
discouraged if it takes time.
7. Keep a journal by your bedside
As soon as you wake up, write down what you dreamt about. “Even
people who say they don’t dream will write something down from the night
before,” says Dr Winter. Your brain dumps information over time – even within
minutes after you wake up from a dream – to make room for more important stuff,
so you’ll want to act fast.
This is an important step in having more detailed dreams. If you
journaled that you walked into a hotel bar, saw someone interesting, and then
woke up, that can help you build on the narrative for next time.
Brb, gotta go catch some Zzzz…
This article was originally
published on www.womenshealthmag.com
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