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24 November 2018

3 easy ways to boost your ebbing libido – almost instantly

If your libido is suffering, it's time reignite that passion in three easy ways.

The average number of times per month women are having sex has decreased from 6.3 to 4.8 times in 20 years. Plus, women are twice as likely to have gone without sex for a whole year compared with men (they say we’re picky, we say have you seen the slim pickings on Tinder lately?).

This joyous news comes courtesy of a new survey of sexual attitudes in the journal The Lancet, which suggests a mounting (sorry) dissatisfaction with our sex lives compared with the male of the species (although 15% of them also reported a drop in libido).

According to sexual health lecturer Dr Cath Mercer, “Stress is to blame. As is technology. People are taking their tablets and cellphones into the bedroom at night and some people are using porn as a sex substitute.”

But, as Angelina Jolie’s good rep proves, everything is reversible. Read on for three solutions to guide you back to project O.

Read more: 5 low libido causes that have nothing to do with hormones

The problem: Stress

The experts say: Your boss is the reason you associate the word “climax” with the end of a really long AGM rather than a saucy quickie up against the fridge. The humble foot massage will sort you out (bear with us here). Studies conducted by the National Institute of Health in the US have proven that reflexology instantly decreases blood pressure and lowers anxiety.

What’s more, says acupuncturist Sandra Bird, a foot massage provides access to one of the most heightened sexual release points on the body – the “yongquan” or “gushing spring” point located on the sole, about a third from the base of the second toe and two thirds from the heel edge. Basically, that midpoint where his massaging thumbs fit perfectly.

In other podiatry-related sex news, pushing on the bit between your big toe and second toe is apparently another major stress-release point. Time for a toe wax!

Read more: The top 10 reasons for low libido

The problem: Devices

The experts say: Emailing, scrolling through News24 comments and playing Candy Crush are detracting from the actual button pressing you want in the bedroom. A recent study published in the Journal of Sexual Medicine found that when women ignore common distractions (phones, TVs, laptops), they can start to become aroused in as little as 30 seconds. Yet an eye-watering 81% of adults always take their cellphone or tablet to the bedroom at night.

Here’s how to kick the habit: Set your alarm before you even enter the bedroom and don’t touch your phone once you’re in bed, suggests Dr Elna Rudolph, WH sex expert and head of MySexualHealth.co.za. Or, on the flip side, you could make your smartphone part of the action (no, not like that, there aren’t enough screen wipes in the world for that game).

Read more: 4 best foods to give your libido a boost

The problem: Porn

The experts say: Women make up one in three viewers. What’s more, a recent survey found that both sexes aged 16 to 44 say watching it is often more exciting than the real thing. If you’re busy getting more on-screen action than off, be careful. “Exposure to explicit content gives you an addictive chemical rush and neuronal firing in your brain – much like cocaine,” says Dr Rudolph. “Compared to porn, normal sex will most likely be far less intense.”

Solo viewing can put an intimacy wedge between you and your partner, so convert porn-viewing to a joint activity instead. “Use it for inspiration for sex moves or to open up dialogue about what you like or don’t like,” says Dr Rudolph. “But, if you need it to get into the mood every time, there’s something else going on.”

For something genuinely educational, try DreamsOfSpanking.com, which weaves tips on technique into the entertainment. And no, sadly, Magic Mike Uncut is not on there.

This article was originally published on www.womenshealthsa.co.za

Image credit: iStock 

 
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