If you're told that your child is a bully, you need to control your reaction and carefully consider the situation, advises an expert. "Take a deep breath and don't panic. Resist the temptation to respond defensively with 'not my child'.
Understand that your child may be testing behaviours," said Sally Kuykendall, an assistant professor of health services at Saint Joseph's University in Philadelphia.
"Confront excuses. Don't allow them to tell you they were 'just joking.' Set clear and consistent limits. Let your child know what is socially acceptable behaviour. Don't let your child blame the victim or rationalise the attacks," Kuykendall added.