Home > Mental health > Disorders 15 July 2009 Helping someone with anxiety Do you know how you could help a family member with an anxiety disorder? The South African Depression and Anxiety Group offers advice. 0 Ask CyberShrink » Talk Heart to heart forum » 13 hidden signs of stress Regenerative medicine: replacing brain cells lost from stroke Do you know how you could help a family member with an anxiety disorder? The South African Depression and Anxiety Group (SADAG) offers advice: Do not make assumptions about what the affected person needs; ask them. Be predictable; do not surprise them. Let the person with the disorder set the pace for recovery. Find something positive in every experience. If the affected person is only able to go partway to a particular goal, such as a movie theatre or party, consider that an achievement rather than a failure. Do not enable avoidance: negotiate with the person with panic disorder to take one step forward when he or she wants to avoid something. Do not sacrifice your own life and build resentments. Do not panic when the person with the disorder panics. Remember that it is all right to be anxious yourself; it is natural for you to be concerned and even worried about the person with panic disorder. Be patient and accepting, but do not settle for the affected person being permanently disabled. Say: “You can do it no matter how you feel. I am proud of you. Tell me what you need now. Breathe slow and low. Stay in the present. It is not the place that is bothering you, it is the thought. I know that what you are feeling is painful, but it is not dangerous. You are courageous.” Do not say: “Relax. Calm down. Do not be anxious. Let me see if you can do this (i.e. setting up a test for the affected person). You can fight this. What should we do next? Do not be ridiculous. You have to stay. Do not be a coward.” - SADAG, July 2009 NEXT ON HEALTH24X When head injuries make life hard, suicide risk goes up 2018-08-28 11:00 More: Mental healthDisorders advertisement Read Health24’s Comments Policy Comment on this story 0 comments Comments have been closed for this article. Logout Comment 0 characters remaining Share on Facebook Loading comments... Other news Medical Many e-cigarettes loaded with germs – study Medical Alzheimer’s disease not linked to type 2 diabetes or high blood pressure – new study Parenting Limpopo parents losing faith in initiation schools, opting for medical circumcisions over concerns of hygiene, safety – and cost Fitness Many young men putting health at risk to bulk up Medical Money worries around food may spur migraines Medical The right gut bacteria may give athletes that extra edge From our sponsors Chela-Fer® iron supplement is easy on the gut for better days Effective treatment for ADHD is available Live healthier » Most couples do not get divorced after infertility struggles IVF kids may have higher risk of autism Progesterone gel as good as injection for IVF Fertility treatments tied to higher odds for pregnancy complications For most women who cannot conceive naturally, in vitro fertilisation is very safe and effective, but it may involve a higher risk of complications during pregnancy. Heart health » Another day at the office – thanks to a defibrillator close at hand Statins help the heart, no matter what your age Even the smallest fitness gains could help you reduce the risk of a heart attack 5 women share exactly what it feels like to have a heart attack 'I felt like I had a pill stuck in my throat.'