Home > Mental health > Disorders 15 July 2009 Helping someone with anxiety Do you know how you could help a family member with an anxiety disorder? The South African Depression and Anxiety Group offers advice. 0 Ask CyberShrink » Talk Heart to heart forum » 13 hidden signs of stress Regenerative medicine: replacing brain cells lost from stroke Do you know how you could help a family member with an anxiety disorder? The South African Depression and Anxiety Group (SADAG) offers advice: Do not make assumptions about what the affected person needs; ask them. Be predictable; do not surprise them. Let the person with the disorder set the pace for recovery. Find something positive in every experience. If the affected person is only able to go partway to a particular goal, such as a movie theatre or party, consider that an achievement rather than a failure. Do not enable avoidance: negotiate with the person with panic disorder to take one step forward when he or she wants to avoid something. Do not sacrifice your own life and build resentments. Do not panic when the person with the disorder panics. Remember that it is all right to be anxious yourself; it is natural for you to be concerned and even worried about the person with panic disorder. Be patient and accepting, but do not settle for the affected person being permanently disabled. Say: “You can do it no matter how you feel. I am proud of you. Tell me what you need now. Breathe slow and low. Stay in the present. It is not the place that is bothering you, it is the thought. I know that what you are feeling is painful, but it is not dangerous. You are courageous.” Do not say: “Relax. Calm down. Do not be anxious. Let me see if you can do this (i.e. setting up a test for the affected person). You can fight this. What should we do next? Do not be ridiculous. You have to stay. Do not be a coward.” - SADAG, July 2009 NEXT ON HEALTH24X 'The plane is going to crash': Anxiety aboard flight SAA 323 2017-10-17 07:45 More: Mental healthDisorders advertisement Read Health24’s Comments Policy Comment on this story 0 comments Comments have been closed for this article. Logout Comment 0 characters remaining Share on Facebook Loading comments... Other news Medical 7 mistakes that can impact your blood pressure reading Lifestyle ‘I tried haemorrhoid cream on my puffy eyes – here’s what happened’ News Former Banyana midfielder Makhosi Luthuli on her struggle with Lymphoma Medical 4 foods that can improve your hearing Lifestyle PSA: You can now track your periods using your Fitbit Fitness How to burn more kilojoules at the gym — without doing any extra exercise From our sponsors Win a R1 500 hamper with Alpecin Hypertension Consumer Fact Sheet Understanding diabetes self-management WIN a R2000 Skin Renewal voucher! Live healthier Mental health & your work » How open are you about mental illness in the workplace? Mental health in the workplace – what you can do to help If you know that one of your colleagues suffers from a mental illness, would you be able to help them at work? Maligay Govender offers some helpful mental health "first aid" tips. Sleep & You » Sleep vs. no sleep Diagnosis of insomnia 6 things that are sabotaging your sleep Kick these shut-eye killers to the kerb and make your whole life better – overnight.