Posted by: Denise | 2004/01/21


Unhappy Todder in new Daycare Centre

My 3 year old son is only today 1 week at his new Daycare Centre and extremely unhappy. I've received 3 bad reports from previous parents who have taken their children away from this particular Daycare. My son comes home very unhappy and cries begging us not to send him back the next day and works himself so up, he complains of tummy ache while begging not to go back and again in the morning before he has to go. Do I change him to another Daycare centre or is it too early. Please help, I too am now unhappy!!

Expert's Reply



There are no definite guidelines, but children are often unhappy and unsure for the first few weeks in a new day care setting. Discuss this with the day care centre. If you feel uncomfortable with how they respond or hear numerous bad reports it is probably good to take hiom out. If they are willing to assist it may be better to persist for a few weeks and give it a chance. Remember your own attitude is extremely important, because all children are very sensitive to how their parents feel.

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Posted by: Chris | 2004/01/22

I have a 16year old and an 8month old. Both girls. I have a career and travel so I understand ALL about day care. My opinion is - You know your child, (nobody knows him better) you know whether he is playing up, if it is causing a problem and this behaviour is out of the ordinary - change his daycare immediately. One bad report from a daycare would do it for me, since I cannot afford to worry about whether the kids are fine - I need to KNOW they are fine. Besides, according to my experience, if your child still comes home unhappy after 3 days the daycare is NOT doing their best to make him feel welcome - which is what you pay them for.

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Posted by: Same problem | 2004/01/21

Hi, my son is 2 and a half years old and also had big problems adapting to the new creche. It's now 2 and a half weeks later and it's much better - no more screaming etc. Buy yourself the new Baby & Me December/January issue - they've got a article regarding this. But from the sound of it your child is extremely stressed and this could have phsycological consequinces on his development. I would consider taking him away. Good luck.

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