Childhood Diseases

Posted by: Debbie | 2010/02/02


Toddler not adapting to school

My son turns 2 in a months time and I have put him into a nursery school (previously at a mornings only day care). I am really worried about how fearful he is about going to school. He has been going every day for a month now and seems to be getting worse rather than better. Even if I mention the word " school" , he starts crying and screaming " No, no, no" . He also has nightmares at nights and hangs onto me all the time now. He was very happy in the day care but was only for babies. There is nothing wrong with the school, I have even sat there the whole day with him. I am worried that if I continue taking him that it will have bad long term effect on him. Should I take him to a child psychologist?

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This is very common. Your son is really unhappy at the school and experiencing severe separation anxiety. Is it really necessary for him to be there?Could you possibly give him another year at home with you so that he can gain in confidence and become more mature.

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Posted by: Purple | 2010/02/02

Arrive at the school unannounced during the day and see what is really going on.

Most children this young have settled into school within about 2 weeks and are fully settled after about 3 months. As he' s been to day care before it should have just been an adjustment period, he was already used to being apart from you.

I' d be a bit concerned about the school if I were you.

On the other hand, it can be something that is really minor but in a 2 year old' s eyes is a massive thing, but it' s so difficult to find out from him what is bothering him as he won' t be able to fully express himself at this age. Try asking questions though and see how he responds to them, they can sometimes surprise you.

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