Childhood Diseases

Posted by: Anon | 2010/02/06


Toddler Advice

Dear Prof
Please can you help me. I feel as though I am losing control of my child. He is two and I know this is a difficult age but I am really battling with control. The problem is that he can be so destructive - throwing, biting, banging, hitting. Hitting is becoming a big problem. I have tried leaving him in his bedroom but he only gets up to no good. I now block off a section in our home that is bare but still this does not seem to have effect. He will call me and say sorry for hitting mommy and I feel I can' t ignore it because he is apologizing but two minutes and he is back to hitting. And he will even tell me going to hurt daddy with this or going to hurt the cat. I tell him no and that it is horrible but it does not seem to sink in. As a last resort I am now giving him a spanking but this too is not helping.
Another problem I have is that sometimes he will wake up throwing a tantrum. One minute he is fast asleep and the next he is out of control and nothing I do can settle him. He violently kicks and screams and I do not know what sets it off because he was fast asleep. It takes a good few minutes to get him to snap out of it. This usually happens during the day.
Before I sound like a dragon mom, he is a good child. He is very clever and is loved unconditionally. We have a good and loving home and we always put our child first. Please help me to understand where we are going wrong?

Expert's Reply



Your son is proving the truth of the terrible two's.You must be consistent with his time outs otherwise he regards it as a joke and he is pretty much out of control. What he really likes is the audience he has got when he is performing.He must be put in his room. Clear it of anything that he can mess up. Speak only once when telling him to stop and not in a pleading voice,speak firmly.The minute he starts put him in his room and close the door. Only let him out when he is quiet. If he starts again put him back immediately even if he has only been out for a minute.

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