Childhood Diseases

Posted by: Jenn | 2010/08/02


To potty train or not - new baby on the way

Hi Doc

I''m 30 weeks preg now with second baby boy. First boy is now 2 yrs 5 months. If I look at the basic signs of potty training then I can see that my son is not even close to that so I decided not to potty train him until he is ready. Tben I saw an artical in the new Baba &  Kleuter about when a new arrival comes and the do''s and don''ts on that topic. It says there that I should not start something big like potty training for a while after the new baby is born, but then friends, family and the creche tells me that the new baby is a good reason to get him off the nappies.
Which is right? I was planning to start potty training when he turns 3 in February. He will then also move on to the potty training class in January. Should I wait or should I start potty, I don''t know what is best.
Also, he still sucks his dummy at night, and can''t sleep without it. He also wants his waking up drink to be in a baby bottle. How do I get rid of those two. I was planning on telling him that the baby needs it but I don''t want to make him feel like his brother is getting his stuff. He also still sleeps with a blankie, but I don''t care so much about that one.
Any advice?

Expert's Reply



Your son is definitely ready to be potty trained now and you should not wait until he is 3 years old. One good way to stop his dummy is to cut a tiny piece off the end each day until it is so short and difficult to suck that your son will stop sucking it. Tell him that he is a big boy and soon he will be a big brother as well to your new baby. He should be offered his milk in a sippy cup now, but if he insists on continuing with a bottle for the time being this is also OK. He will give it up when he sees that babies drink from bottles.

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Posted by: Sam | 2010/08/05

I don''t think you should worry too much about any of this - he will be potty trained when ready and also stop using the dummy and bottle when he is ready. My son did it all on his own before he was 3 years old - I had the same situation with the new baby on the way - he potty trained himself before baby arrived - just started to do what daddy did when using the toilet. Did ask for a nappy once when he saw baby used it - I gave it to him and he kept it on for that afternoon and never again. Dummy was the last thing to go - it made him feel secure - a new baby is a BIG thing emotionally for them. Good luck!

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Posted by: R | 2010/08/03

My advice is to acquaint him with the smaller babies at the school also, just so he can get an understanding that he is a bigger boy now. My son is turning 3 in a couple days and still enjoys his milk from the bottle. No other babies. But He''s big now, and sometimes when the babies are outside and drinking their milk at the school I will show him and explain to him. In time I am hoping he will let go on his own, as I know he does enjoy this.
Lol, also tired of washing teats and bottles at his age.

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Posted by: Purple | 2010/08/03

Until your son decides to start wearing underpants and wanting to use the toilet he won''t really be potty trained. Anything before then is just a parent who has their timing going well - 20 minutes after eating or drinking, they need to go.

Don''t let this become an area of stress and fighting. Just show him the toilet, encourage him, give him stars when he does use it and eventually he''ll just start going more regularly.

Little boys tend not to like potties, a step for standing and using the toilet is easier for them. Get a soft seat to fit in the big toilet for number two''s.

If you potty train now, he might revert to nappies again once baby arrives - this is quite normal as the arrival of a new baby is quite stressful.

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