Childhood Diseases

Posted by: Sue | 2011/10/17


Tantrums and Allergies

Please can you advise. My daughter is 19 months old and throws the most awful tantrums but it is more when she does not get her own way or when she does not want to do something. Please can you advise on how to handle this as a single mother? Also she suffers badly from sinus. I have had her on antibiotics as well as nasal sprays and antihistamins but nothing seems to help. Could it be an allerfy to cow''s milk? Thanks Sue

Expert's Reply



You daughter's nasal allergy known as allergic rhinitis may well be aggravating her moods. Also some antihistamines can worsen and may even cause anger episodes in young children. It would be best to ask a paediatric allergist to see your daughter and to test her for allergies. At her age she could be allergic to allergens in the air such as grass pollen or house dust.She is at the age when temper tantrums are common. When she starts with a tantrum you should either leave the room or put her in her bedroom until she is quiet and the tantrum is over. Do not plead with her to stop her tantrum. Just be firm. Tell her once to stop. If she does not listen pick her up and take her to her room and close the door. Be sure to leave her there until she is completely quiet.

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Posted by: Nini | 2011/10/17

I have a 20 month old and this what works for us:

The moment that tantrum starts, I literally look away and leave the room, or continue doing something else as if she doesn''t exist. After about 20 seconds she stops(sometimes longer if she''s really tired or irritated) and will either come to me or continue doing what she was doing. When she wants something I avoid saying No, but rather offer her an alternative instead - so if she asks for sweets, I will tell her that there are no sweets but she can have some yogurt instead? So technically there is not a No, and if she still doesnt want yogurt then a tantrum usually starts. That is when I walk away. 90% of the time she will then come and ask for that yogurt afterwards. Do NOT entertain the tantrum, ignore it as if it''s not even happening. The more attention it gets, the more dramatic it will be, and there more there will be of it. If you see she is struggling with something, offer to help her or distract her with something else. Punishing a tantrum is not effective, rather ignore it and deal with your child after she has calmed down.

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