Childhood Diseases

Posted by: Peas | 2011/04/01



Hi Professor,

My 4 year old son sometimes does not want to go to school and throws a big tantrum and hangs onto my leg and almost pulls my trousers off! When he is at home, he asks to go to school, so I cannot understand the behaviour. There are other kids in his class that also have tantrums, could he be picking this up from them? I cannot tell him to go into his room and come out when he is feeling better and I cannot take a star off his star chart so don''t quite know how to deal with this situation. This morning I had to promise him that we would swim after he had spent some time with his friends and now I have to be sure to follow this through.

Any advise would be appreciated.

Expert's Reply



This is a difficult question to answer. Your son is a bit 'old' to still be having tantrums. At times he seems to want to go to school and at other times fights against going.This does not seem to be due to separation anxiety. He could well be mimicking the behaviour of the other children at his school who are having tantrums there.As you say it probably will not help to use the time out method or star chart.It may be best to get him to make one good friend at his school. Invite this friend to your home, so that your son can get used to playing with him and be keen to see him at school every day.

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