Posted by: Big gho ho nas | 2009/01/27



My LG is 8months almost 9months, I think I' ve spoilt her (or something) and now is ' n big BIG problem, my baby stays with my mother during the day, when she' s with me she' ll play on her own and now and then she' ll cry just to get my attention, but when she' s with my mom she' s something out of her horror movie, she cries the whole time and doesnt at all play on her own, and if my mom picks her up she' ll be quite or if my mom sits with her were she' s playing she' ll be quite! My mom had her back operation 6 years ago, and she cant hold my baby the whole time on her hip, that' s why I' m writting to you that if it is possible, that you can help me PLEASE! How can I undo this! I' m still breastfeeding her and I never tried to spoil her, it just happend, now it' s mom who suffers! I dont want to take her to daycare so early in her life, she' ll be in school for 18years and now it' s just to early! But if it doesnt change soon my mom won' t be able to look after my baby for very long!

Please help

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Your mom obviously is in no condition to be able to carry your baby around all day. Your baby is behaving like this because she has separation anxiety and wants attention all the time.She wonders where you are all day. As you are breastfeeding her still it will also be difficult if she goes to a creche.All in all a difficult problem. She will hate being in daycare and her separation anxiety will increase.So I cannot really solve your problem other than saying the solution probably lies in you staying at home with her or if you cannot then getting a carer to look after her at your home while you are at work.

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Posted by: LJ | 2009/01/27

hi there .. me again .. if you have time .. go read some more .. the website address :

www DOT health24 DOT com / journey / First_year /

i can' t type the actual ( . ) in between the website address, it won' t allow me to ..

or go to health 24 main page
go to pregnancy
go to month by month
and also go to breastfeeding

there' s a lot of stuff you can read, i did when my baby was small and it helped me a lot.

good luck

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Posted by: LJ | 2009/01/27


Separation anxiety
This is common at this age and is characterised by extreme distress when the primary caregiver leaves the baby. She may become more clingy and will protest when you have to leave her behind in the care of someone else –  even someone familiar to the child. Sleep problems are common as your baby may fear that you would leave her and disappear.

Many mothers feel very constricted at this time. But don’ t worry, the more love and support you give your child, the quicker he/she will get over it. It is important to note that some babies never develop separation anxiety.
What you can do to help

* As your baby may start to point with her index finger, play pointing games
* Teach her to stack blocks
* Encourage her to pick up small objects
* Help her to stand, holding on stable pieces of furniture
* Allow your child to make “ music”  by banging on pots
* Reward good behaviour

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