Childhood Diseases

Posted by: worried Mom | 2007/06/15


son feels that he is not loved

My son is 9 years old and worries me with his negative feelings. If his younger sister is praised, he tells us that we do not love him. We do love him, and we do praise him as well, and we never compare the 2 of them to each other. He also tends to become rather emotional, much to his Dads annoyance. Is this normal? He constanly says that 'can't' do things like maths etc as he does not know the answers - his self esteem and self-confidence seems very low to me. How do I deal with this as I am of the opinion that anyone who in adulthood suffers from depression or anti-social behaviour, learns it during their childhood. Please assist.

Expert's Reply



This is definitely a real problem and I agree with you that your so has very low self-esteem. This can certainly lead to all sorts of problems for him in adult life so it is important to sort the problem out at this stage. Before going the route of consulting clinical psychologists, I would much prefer that his father starts to play a major role in helping his on to get over his feelings of inadequacy.He must find out or should already know the areas in which your son son does well such as a a particular sport or interest. He should then make sure that he boosts his confidence and expertise in these areas as much as possible. Simply by going fishing with his son regularly he will make a huge difference to his self-esteem.

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Posted by: sue | 2007/06/25

How utterly dissapointing! The dominating father and mother of a little boy!

Do you ever say nice things to your son or is he supposed to grow up like a robot - blip bloop blip, no emotion, rugby-watching, beer-drinking slob like daddy?

Wow, isnt that something to aspire to..... I pity your son for having such AMAZINg parents.

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