Childhood Diseases

Posted by: Van | 2007/06/08


shy 19 month toddler

Dear Doc

I have a 19 month old boy and recently I noticed that when around anyone he does not know he becomes very shy. Even when the neighbours, speak to him and compliment him saying things like "such a handsome boy"etc., he becomes extremely shy and hides behind me.

I would like your view about this and what you think I can do to combat this behaviour. I don't want him to be shy. My husband and I are quiet and not outspoken people. I know he is probably mirroring our behaviour. But I don't want him to be this way. How can I build his confidence and self image?

Your advice will be much appreciated.

Thank you.

Expert's Reply



This is very common behaviour in toddlers and should not be a cause for concern. In his case having quiet and probably rather shy parents will probably make it necessary for him to have his confidence boosted. What you need to do is to praise him often even for the little things he does right and tell him that he is a fine young boy. Start playing games with him. Your husband could show him how to kick a ball or even start teaching him how to catch a ball or give him a toddler's size plastic golf club and teach him how to hit the plastic ball coming with the set. His Dad is very important in boosting his son's confidence.

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Posted by: Nel | 2007/06/09

Hi, Van...My boy was also like that at some age....I think they sometimes do go through shy-fases...I bought a wonderfull book at exclusive books called:The hidden Gifts of the intoverted child, by: Marti Olsen Laney...This gives a parent a great perspective on a childs behavior....It really helped me alot to understand my boy and structure his environment. My boy isn't shy, but not an extrovert at all! Shyness and being a bit of an introvert is not the explained in this book. Hope this will be of some help.

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