Childhood Diseases

Posted by: Pumpkin | 2008/08/05


Sharing and cowardness

Hi Doc,
Please help me, my 3 year old noy cannot share his toys with his brother who is 14 months, and can share with his friends at school or at church in so much that some kids will take his toys at church he will not fight he will leave them,I have stopped faking his toys from other children I always tell him to do it himdlef but he would rather leave them than to go and take them from them. But it is so diffrent with his brother. If his brother plays with something, he would go and take it from him and give him something else. Ofcourse I always repramind him , and his brother has even started fighting him now, Yesterday my helper told me that the little one fought with him and took a cellphone and threw it on him.
What must I do? sorry for the long posting.

Expert's Reply



This is quite normal behaviour and you don't need to worry so much. Your 3 year old is a rather retitiring fellow when it comes to getting things back from other children, but in reality at his age children don't really recocognise things as belonging to them in the sense that older children and adults do. He is quite content to share things with all those around him. When it comes to his brother sibling rivalry enters the picture. The little one seems more than capable of standing up for himself and the older boy is only trying to show that he is the big older brother.Just be patient and don't make a fuss about things. You don't want your older boy to be too soft but there is plenty of time for him to become more independent and possessive of his own toys.

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Posted by: Pumpkin | 2008/08/06

Thank you doctor.

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