Childhood Diseases

Posted by: Desperate | 2011/11/04


Screaming child

Hi Dr, my daughter (2yrs, 5 months) started creche now (she was with a daymother who closed)...I am in desperate need of advice/meds for coping with the separation anxiety she is experiencing. She enjoys it there (I asked her about it), but as soon as I drop her off she starts screaming (not crying), but screaming as if it''s the worst thing ever. I am worried that she might damage her vocal cords, because her voice is now hoarse just because of screaming like that every morning. She has never screamed like that before, it is far from crying. It''s hysterical. She does not really cry during the day at the creche. She is fine then. Is there medication I can give her to calm her down? I have tried rescue remedy, it does nothing for her. I will have to take her to a doctor, if there is something stronger that can be prescribed. I cannot continue like this... plse help!

Expert's Reply



Young children do not respond well to sedatives, so none are recommended. Your daughter needs lots of reassurance now. You need to reassure her that you will come to fetch her as soon as you can after work. It would help her if she made at least one good friend at school and can look forward to seeing and playing with her new friend.Separation anxiety is usually quite severe at your daughter's age, but it will pass as a problem when she is well settled in her new school and also when she is confident that you will fetch her every day.

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Posted by: Desperate | 2011/11/07

Thank you doctor and Nikki for the advice. I have tried talking to her about a treat, but it does not seem to help. I am definitely going to give her a special treat when I fetch her tomorrow onwards. Hopefully it will then help her cope as there is something to look forward to. Feeling so sorry for myself :(

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Posted by: Nikky | 2011/11/07


My son did the same thing at that age. Keep on with your routine, do not change schools again or change some part of the normal routine. My son also got hysterical, as did many of his classmates, so it is not unusual. He used to pull at my trousers that they almost came off me. Like Prof says, reassure her that you will come to collect her and perhaps promise her a treat. I know a lot of people will frown at that, but I would have a cooldrink in the car when I picked him up and he calmed down knowing there was something waiting for him at the end of the day. It can also be a small, cheap toy.

Now he asks to go to school on weekends! Hope you come right.

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