Childhood Diseases

Posted by: Chris | 2009/11/22


Over-sensitive son

My son is nearly 6 years old but is and has been always over-sensitive. He is generally very shy, hesitant to play in any group sports, and gets hurt &  cries easily. He is very connected to me and especially to his mother. Due to me having to work overseas frequently, he is often months at a time only with his mother. At his kindergarten there are mostly female teachers and his babysitter is also female. Changing this is not possible. He also told a male friend of his (also nearly 6) at the kindergarten that " he loves him" .

Naturally we as parents are concerned about his over-sensitiveness and that he might become gay. We would like some advice how to develop him more into a tougher boy that can stand up for himself and be more masculine. Advice to me as the father especially, how to behave towards my son and how to handle him, would be appreciated.

Expert's Reply



Difficult as you may find it to believe, your son's behaviour and interests may be just a stage he is going through at present, but he certainly does need his father now.You need to spend quality time with him when you are home and must communicate by Skype with video or similar when you are overseas. Not a day should pass without you communicating with your son and your family.Although he is not interested in sport try to interest him in some traditionally 'masculine' activities eg planes,space travel, astronomy, steam trains, mechanical devices etc even if it just drawing them.Take him out fishing and sit next to him the whole time while you both fish and spend the day talking to him.Above all treat him completely normally and show him that you are proud of him and love him.

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Posted by: Chris | 2009/11/23

Thanks for the advice, I' ll definately try to make communication between us more frequent.. until the next visit.

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