Posted by: Very tired mom! | 2004/10/25



Hi There, my son will be 3 in December and he often only falls asleep at 9.30 in the evening. I have spoken to his creche teacher, he does have a nap of about 45 minutes during the day.
He doesn't eat very well for my liking... Will have pronutro for breakfast and supper and will nibble on cheese and cucumber for supper.Eats very well at creche but not at home. I only give him one sweet thing after 6 at night. What are we doing wrong, he is still on the bottle (night time only) and I have tried my utmost to get him off it, won't drink from a cup unless "barney" is on it!
He has a bath at about 7pm and then a story and then he starts getting dozy.. yet the minute I leave his side he is wide awake.
I need some tips on how to get him to fall asleep by himself!!! Without mommy or daddy!!!

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The most important thing is to establish a routine and not provide any alternatives. If you put him in bed at 20h00, then you may sit or lie with him for a while, but he should not be able to get out of bed after that. You may also ask the chreche to cut down on his day time sleeping and I will definitely not advise to give him something sweet every evening. There are often no easy answers. A child needs to know that you love him very much, but he also needs to know exactly where you draw the line.

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Posted by: Mamma | 2004/10/25

There is so much reading you could do about this. But the two that got stuck in my head was :
1. If you go out of the room and the childs starts crying leave him for five min then go in and reassure him. Go out and if he wakes up again leave the child for a little longer and go in again and reassure him again .. and so on until he learns to fall asleep without you. But if youre like me you cannot stand hearing your child crying .
2. For the first week or so put your hand on the child while his falling a sleep and stay with him for the first few hours. Then when you feel the time is right move on to the next step, just sit in his room but without touching him or talking to him until he falls asleep and stay with him for a few hours. It says you should make yourself comfortable .It says that this is the long way of doing it but at least you dont have to hear youre child crying the whole time.
PS. I have not tested any of these menthods but I sure I am going to have to pretty soon.

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