Posted by: Solia Bosch | 2009/09/22


LG 3 years old still wetting herself

Good afternoon

I really need some advice or help for my LG. She is 3, turning 4 in May. She is still wetting herself at least 4 - 5 times daily. There was a stage when she was in creché  and they moved her from the " potty training"  class to the 3 year old group, that she was really doing well and didn' t have any accidents at all, but as the time went by it is just as if they whole potty training routine disappeared. We are getting worried that it might be something wrong with her bladder i.e. that she doesn' t have any control over it, or doesn' t realise when she needs to go to the loo.

I must she' s been through a lot, at a previous creché  they blocked her nose and poured water in her mouth to force her to eat her food, she just turned 2 then, and I don' t know if the emotional distress linked to that is only surfacing now. We have also just relocated from Pta to Durban and she is in a new school now who is having a real problem with her " wetting"  herself in a class room aged between 3 and 4 and having kids that should be fully potty trained.

I know that the relocation and new school is also a huge adjustment for her, but her teacher says it is going really well at school and she is adjusting fast.

Do I need to get her checked out medically and how do I approach the situation in the best possible way without putting pressure on her?

Expert's Reply



This is a very common problem and normally I would not be over concerned yet. However it does appear that your little girl has been under a lot of emotional pressure for some time. The previous creche should be reported to the authorities for doing what they did to your daughter. They could have caused her severe physical harm as well as the emotional damage which they have caused to her. Now she is rightly scared and suspicious of all creche situations. This must be affecting her. Does she wet herself at weekends when she is at home?Normally I would advise a simple start to her wetting problem by advising a star chart programme, but your daughter has had a bad time and should see a paediatrician first and probably will need to see a child psychologist as well.

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Posted by: judith | 2009/09/22

my child is also having a similar problem and i am really worried

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