Childhood Diseases

Posted by: OBA | 2010/12/22


Inappropriate Behaviour

My 5 yrs old son has a terrible habit of walking past someone, mostly men and punching them in the stomach, backside or their ''crown jewels'', whichever is closest. My wife and I have made him apologise when this happens (so do we) to the victim. Some think that he is just a boy and its a phase he is going through and to be honest so have I.
Today he punched a man in the ''jewels'' while playing with a new found friend at a child friendly restaurant and this gentleman reacted. My wife who was present apologised profusely but he gave her a serious lecture about discipling my son.
I do think that my son''s behaviour is not on. How do I change this or do you think its a phase?

Expert's Reply



Obviously the starting point is that your son's behaviour is totally unacceptable and very embarrassing. He is already 7 years old and he should fully realise that he cannot behave in this way. The issue is why is he so aggressive, angry and/or frustrated that he would hit an adult male and in this particular way? He is lucky that the last man he hit did not do more than just get fed up and angry at his behaviour.You have to set boundaries and discipline your son. After an experience like this you need to have a long talk to your son and tell him in no uncertain terms that he cannot hit anybody whether an adult or a child. He should have been sent straight to his room when he got home and he should stay there until he is prepared to say 'Sorry' for his bad behaviour.The other issue here is whether your son is showing any of the signs of the 'autism syndrome'. It would be best to consult a child psychologist for advice on two issues:Is there any problem with a possible autism syndrome and if not how do you stop your son's unacceptable and aggressive behaviour?

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