Posted by: AD | 2009/09/09



My son, 21 months has been an absolute monster lately. He is obessed with my hair, all he wants is for me to carry him so he could just hold my hair. Otherwise he just screams and cries and cries and cries. He will not go to bed without my hair. He gets into our bed every night and every time put him in his bed after a few hours he gets back in.

I have tried giving him a barney to hold didn'  t work. I tried just leaving him in the room with the door closed, he cried for two hours not giving up. I thought that he would get tired of crying but I was the one who got tired of the crying. Eventually he got sick, block nose and wheezy cough. This happens every time I used the controlled crying method. Its like I have to give in to him all the time.

I dont know what to do. As I sit here writing this I have tears running down my cheeks. Am I doing something wrong or is this a phase.

Please help me.

Expert's Reply



This may be a phase but it is obvious who is presently the boss in this situation. You need to show your son that you mean business. Speak kindly but firmly when you want him to do or not do something. Speak clearly. Do not shout and do not plead with him. It is time to apply the controlled crying method properly.Start of with allowing him to cry for 5 minutes before going to him. Reassure him and leave his room. Add a minute each time to the period that you allow him to cry. Do not allow him in your bed. It can easily take two nights to get your son through this period.

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