Posted by: Cookie | 2005/01/13


Having Trouble with New School

My 5 year old daughter started Preschool last week and was very excited the first day. She had lots to say but said she no longer wanted to go. I have this problem on a daily basis but whilst there she is happy (so they tell me). When at home she says she does not want to go. Before then my mom looked after her but had no stimulation or other kids to play with. In the morning she will say she does not want to go but gets ready and go anyway but this morning she refused to go and had to carry her. Today was the first time there was tears (from both of us, although she did not see me crying) When I phoned the teacher she said that my daughter was fine and that she sat with her until she calmed down.

I have explained to my daughter that she is a big girl now and she will be going to Grade 1 next year so she must go to preschool. I have to tell her this everytime she says she does not want to go to school. I think its because she is with strangers whole day and she misses the love and attention she got at home.

How can a make this transition easier for both of us?

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I hope some of the other mothers can give their input as well. The most important thing is to select a school that you trust, to develop a good routine and to encourage your child in every way possible (without bribing her) to be positive about the school experience.

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Posted by: Cookie | 2005/01/20


2 weeks later and my daughter has finally accepted that she needs to go to school. I did bribe her though. What purple said is true. She's quite fine once I've left. I stay no longer that 2 minutes cause then I have to ruch to work.


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Posted by: Purple | 2005/01/17


My sister is a nursery school teacher, and she was telling me that almost all the kids cry when their parents drop them off, and the parents tell her that the kiddies have been saying they don't want to come to school.

She says that the moment the parents are out the door the child stops crying, joins its friends and has a lovely time. She says that on the first few days of school some of the children do cry a little longer, but she gets them involved in an anctivity and calms them down.

She said that parents who ask to stay for a while with their child make the problem worse - the child cries while they are there and when they leave the child starts sobbing.

The school she teaches at is quite a good school and she says that the children seem to love it.

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