Posted by: Don | 2004/11/15


cries to much, please help me.

Hi there,

I am concerned about my 3 year old daughter, she cries out of blue for no apparent reason. Since she was a baby she was half colic but I mean she cant be colic now. But when I ask her whats wrong she does not reply and just carries on crying or she will say that her leg is sore or her foot but there is actually nothing there for her to say that it is sore. I really dont know what is wrong because yesterday she burst out crying 4 times and for no reason at all. What do think could be the problem. Our next door neighbors got a baby 3 months ago and I hardly ever hear that baby crying. I even overheard my neighbor one time saying that our toddler cries to much. This happens on a daily basis and I am getting worried and fed up cause what must the people next door think that I hurting my child, when I have actually really done nothing wrong and I get shocked everytime with her cause I dont know what to do. Is she withdrawn or what can I do to make this better and go away. 3 years is a long time and everytime I visit the doctor they say she is perfect. Please help.

Thank you

Expert's Reply



Obviously the first objective would be to ensure that there is no physical reason for the crying, but children most often cry because they feel emotionally unsure or because they want to get their own way. Emotional insecurity often results if there is a youinger sibling who competes for attention or if there is stress in the parents relationship. The best advice would be to be very sensitive to your childs emotional state, but also to be very firm and consistent in how you deal with it. She must know what is unacceptable (and that you are not manipulated by any tantrums), but she may never doubt your love and acceptance.

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Posted by: Chris | 2004/11/16


I once heard someone say that children cry because they are hungry, thirsty, wet or they just want love and attention. My son has complained about his leg being sore for a while when he was small. Could it be growing pains? If you are certain that it's not physical, maybe try giving her a bit of undivided attention. Not too much though otherwise she might use this to get more attention. Just say, "here, let Mommy kiss it better, you see there it's better already". Or something like that. And then try to distract her with something else so she can forget about it.
I am not a medical professional, I can only try and offer advise.
What happens if you ignore the crying all together?

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