Childhood Diseases

Posted by: Roxy | 2008/09/30


Bedwetting at the age of 11yrs

I really am at the end of my tether when it comes to this...
My husband'  s son from his first marriage (now 11yrs old) has been wetting the bed since I met my husband 4yrs ago.
He goes thru stages...some nights he won'  t wet the bed at all and then suddenly he'  ll start wetting the bed every single night.
We have tried everything including talking to him nicely - trying to understand why he does it. He sleeps extremely deeply so we think he just simply "  doesn'  t wake up"  to wee - but then again ...other nights he does. When we try to wake him up at night to wee...he is extremely lazy to get up so i'  m starting to think it'  s just pure laziness.....
We have gone the "  nice &  Understanding"  route with him and we'  ve gone the "  not so nice route"  with him where we deduct money from his pocket money and we make him clean up all the soiled sheets, blankets, clothing etc himself. That actually worked for a while where he stopped wetting the bed for about 2 months and we really thought it was over....but then it started again.....
I personally am just so sick and tired of it...everything smells of wee all the time.
I have even spoken to his mother about it and she says she doesn'  t want to take him to the Dr coz she doesn'  t want him to think there is something wrong with him, but surely the child must feel terrible when he wakes up in a pool of his own urine for the past 4yrs - surely he must realise there is something wrong with him???? It even happens when he sleeps over by friends, and he must feel so embarrassed coz he'  s at the age now where peer pressure is becoming a factor.
If there is something physicallly wrong with him, I would like to help him get it sorted out and not leave it - what happens if it doesn'  t get better and it'  s still a problem by the age of 16yrs????
Alot of people say that bedwetting is a cause of possible emotional trauma - but he has not had anything like that - he is a very happy child and i wouldn'  t say "  spoilt"  , but he gets almost everything he wants.
What are your opinions / advice?? I sure need it...

Expert's Reply



This is a problem that needs to be taken very seriously by his parents.They should have done something about his bedwetting [ also called enuresis] a long time ago.It is incredibly difficult for your stepson and very embarrassing for him. He needs to be seen by a paediatric urologist and fully investigated to find out if there is any physical cause for his bedwetting problem. If he does not have a physical cause then treatment is readily available which will bring this problem under control.It is unlikely that there is a psychological cause for his enuresis but this does need to be considered when a treatment plan is being worked out.

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Posted by: leon | 2014/08/06

ek maak ook die bed nat ek gebruik ek gebruik doeke ook moet

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Posted by: Tineke | 2008/12/07

Ek wil weet. Ek kon nog nooit ophou om bed nat te maak nie. Ek is al ' n volwassen vrou en dit gebeur nog met my, veral as en ovuleer en as ek menstrueur en soms as ek oorspanne is en baie diep slaap en nie kan wakker word om op te staan om ' n draai te kan loop nie. As ek in sulke gevalle grootmensdoeke dra soos pulups dat ek net beskerm is vir ingeval iets gebeur, is daar iets fout met my?

Ek moet ook erken, as dit met my gebeur as ek gespanne is, dit my laat onstpan as ek wel die bed nat gemaak het, veral as ek alleen slaap. As ek saam met my man slaap en ek is oorspanne oor iets buite ons beheer, dan dra ek pulups.

As ek maandstonde het, dra ek dit in elkgeval, omdat ek dan meer beskermd is en voel.


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