Childhood Diseases

Posted by: A Mom | 2011/07/06


Anger issues

My son will be 5 in September, and he is generally a good child, well mannered, kind and loving. He has gone through a lot of change recently, as we have just had a baby, who he seems to love and adore. He will hug and kiss her, wants to help with anything he can. My husband had anger issues in the past, which my son was subjected to (no abuse, but he saw the rage). His teacher has brought to my attention, that at school, if he doesn''t get his way or him and a friend start fighting (not physically, with words), that he gets so angry, he shakes. We are concerned that perhaps he doesn''t know how to release/deal with anger. He currently does karate and soccer skills, once a week. What should we do, where do we turn? He is a lovely child, and don''t want this to get out of hand.

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It seems that despite his apparent acceptance of his new sibling, your son has taken a bit of a knock with the arrival of the new baby.His dad has the tendency to anger episodes and your son seems to have inherited this as well. His behaviour suggests the need to intervene at this stage and stop this tendency before it becomes a real problem for him as an adolescent and adult.It would be best to take him to see a child psychologist.

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Posted by: R | 2011/07/07

Hi A-mom. My son is turning 4 next month, and I''ve had similar issues and complaints from school, all related to his father''s behaviour when he was younger, and which I eventually put a stop to. It took time for his father to realise I was serious about certain behaviour impacting on the child negatively.
But needless to say, my son didn''t just forget, and his problem got worse, until the complaints were coming in every single week. Eventually I decided to take action at home, because he is old enough to understand right from wrong, so I banned TV for a week, and put up a star chart, and discussed the issue with him almost daily. Within that week, he''d turned around completely, and is still doing great.
It would be hard to do this, now with the new baby as your son would feel further insecurities, but try to find a way to get thro to him somehow, give him something to think about. Just by banning the TV, my little one had something to consider. I felt bad, but in the end it worked.
good luck!

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