Posted by: CS01 | 2010/08/12


Advise Needed

My little boy (4) goes to a really good private crè che on the East Rand. Something that has been bothering me is that I will find that the " schoolwork"  that he does there, well he doesn’ t seem to be on standard with those of his mates. Let me give you examples:

Colouring in - still colours outside the lines, will only use one colour even though he will be encouraged to use different colours for hair, clothes, skin, etc.

When given a picture to assemble of a body - he wil have difficulty aligning the body parts (the arms, legs, head will be totally skew, whilst his friends don’ t seem to have problems in getting this right)

Cutting out of the numbers 1-10 and then gluing them onto a piece of paper but in the correct order - he does count well but does not seem to " understand"  the numbers.

Yesterday he was upset when I fetched him - he couldn’ t draw a toothbrush when he was asked to do so and his friends started teasing him about this.
He however does very well with building puzzles, counting and his language development is well above par for his age. The teacher says that in the last month it appears that he has " given up"  on trying with his schoolwork- he is rather interested in giving her reasons as to why he shouldn''t do the things she has asked him to do.
He talks way too much and takes long in completing tasks. He does not fidget and I don''t think think that it is a concentration problem either as he can sit still for 1 1/2 watching a kiddies movie or when listening to music.

He is a very happy little boy and we have no issues at home. Do you feel that there could possibly be a problem there with his development that should be addressed?
He still is very young and I don’ t want to put too much pressure on him but if he needs to see someone I''d rather do it now than having a problem when he actually goes to school.

Apologies for the long post.

Expert's Reply



This is very common with little boys. Do not compare his progress at 'school' with little girls of the same age.He appears to be a little clumsy still which is also a little boy thing but when it comes to most things requiring good intelligence he does very well eg puzzles, counting and language.Teach him to colour in at home and try to get him to keep between the lines. This kind of practice will help him a lot.For the rest he appears to be a normal, bright and happy little boy.

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Posted by: EM Mom | 2010/08/13

Hi there,

The DOc is right! My son is 4 - also on the East Rand - and my sister''s little girl is 6 months older and due to divorce the 4 of us have lived together from when my son was 6 months and they go to the same creche. So basicly the only difference in their lives are their mothers.

My boy don''t colour inside the lines, actually he does not like to draw and colour in. His cousin draws the most beautiful pics and will sit and do " art work"  for hours.

He will spend hours playing and running outside - especially building - but she refuse. He will tease her and then go climb a tree cause she can''t so she won''t be able to catch him. He can swim and she can''t. He knows his shapes and coulours in Eng and Afr she has just managed to get hers right about a month ago.

They are different, yes same home, same school but they are different, unique. They will develop their strengths first.

Enjoy the ride!

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