Childhood Diseases

Posted by: marish | 2008/06/10


3yr old lying

hi doc
my 3yr old daughter has started lying since a few months ago. it is never she that did something, i know she knows that she is lying. before i even find out she did something wrong she runs to me and says its not her, its her brother (7). i used to disipline my son but have found that she lies. when i catch her doing wrong she appologises the whole time. i dont know where she learned to lie as i never lie to them.
please help!!

Expert's Reply



In pre-school children telling lies or rather 'tall stories' is often an expression of their inability to distinguish betweeen fact and fantasy. It is unnecessary to discipline your daughter.She may also be telling lies in order to avoid punishment or for attention seeking purposes.She will grow out of this phase if you are patient with her and gently tell her to rather tell the truth.

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Posted by: BMJ | 2008/06/11

I have a suggestion. We tell our sons that if they do something wrong and they tell the truth, their punishment will be consequences only - like no tv, no sweeties for the week etc. If they do something wrong and they lie. The punishment is much worse. They will get a hiding (sorry we believe in those - you may choose something else) for the lie and still have consequences for the wrong as well. In other words, they wont ever get a hiding for telling the truth and we generally keep the consequences light or mild for admitting to the wrong, it really helped them see the importance of truth, but that making bad choices still carry consequences.


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Posted by: Tasja | 2008/06/10

My son is also nearly 3,and he started telling little lies a while ago aswell.At first it was funny,because i knew he was lying.It was something like,he already had a bath at my moms place ,when it was bathtime,or such small things.I think its a faze,and i always say "no man youre lying ,your nose will grow like pinocchios or something.Then he laughs!!Shame ,i just want to hug him to death!!They just explore new things.I dont know how they pick it up,but they do!!

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Posted by: JEAN | 2008/06/10

Hi there, i would also love to hear what the doc says. but maybe it is a faze they go thraugh. my daughter also 3 does the same. her brother 2 always get the blame for what ever she does wrong. i think they r just testing our patians and to see what they will be able to get away with and not.
but like i said i would also like to know?
just my thaughts

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