Posted by: Natalie | 2007/12/12


3½ Year boy refuses to poo in toilet

My son refuses to poo in the toilet. He has total controle over his stool. Before he wants to go he will call me and ask me to put a nappy on. He only wears a nappy at night, and he never wets his pants. I have tried everything! Promising presents, looking busy so that I don't have "time" to put a nappy on. If I don't put a nappy on he starts crying and I can see he gets very anxious if I don't respond. Please help!

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Just give him more time and be very patient with him. Let him wear trainer pants.Give him a 2 week break from any toilet training and then let him try again.Reward any success he has with the use of the toilet.

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Posted by: Aunt | 2008/08/25

My 5 year old nephew refuses to " poo"  in the toilet. He requests a nappy and will go off privately, squat, do his poo and then come ask to have the nappy removed and be cleaned. He has never used the potty to poo, he urinates in the toilet without an issue. What is the next step to sort this out? My sister is going to take him to their paeditrician. Is it more likely a physical or pyschological issue? And how is it normally treated? He is otherwise well adjusted at his pre-school and healthy.

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Posted by: Paisley's Mommy | 2007/12/12

Don't stress!!!!

I know exactly how you feel. My daughter only started to poo on the toilet just before her 3rd b-day. (She would not use the potty either) Keep suggesting the loo, but if he refuses, just put the nappy on.

My daughter woke up one afternoon after her nap and said I think I shoud poo on the loo and off she went. We made such a big thing about it. I took her shopping and bought her a scooter she had spotted on many occasions and made her cupcakes, phoned everyone and let her tell them. Just hang in there, it will happen. Promise him a toy he really wants, take him to see it often and remind him that it will be his as soon as he poops on the loo.

Don't force the issue with him. Trust me it will happen. Have you ever seen a full grown man wearing a nappy because he does not want to use the loo?
Just keep reassuring him and suggesting that he use the loo, it will come. The absolute worst thing you can do is force the issue, it will make him regress.

Remember the toilet is a daunting place for little souls......
Try getting a seat that fits over or under the toilet seat. This may encourage him to use it.

Good Luck, Natalie

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