Posted by: Keonie | 2020/02/13


Tired of chasing nothing

Ok so before you answer you need to know that I am not really asking my question because i do not have an answer... Yes i have a few answers to fix my problem... but rather what to do when you find yourself fixing problems the whole time and it just never ends. Like the whole thing is a simple cycle, over and over again. Wake up, sit in traffic, work, sit in traffic, chores and cooking at home, sleep...struggle to pay bills and survive till next pay day and repeat. Problem fixers, take on a hobby, done that a few times till the hobby felt like another "repeat" action. Make friends and go out, tried that and friends got too persistent or just too demanding. Get a job you love, tried that but pay was way less than job i did not love so yeah.... Keep record of your money, do not spend on luxury stuff, Yeah right if toothpaste is seen as luxury then i can cut on it. Feel fat, ugly - Fix: read motivational stuff online, eat healthier, start exercising, but not to much as experts say then you will not succeed. Well no matter, I still did not succeed cause having menopause makes losing weight much more difficult. Then you read your bible and look at people who are less fortunate than you, believe me there are and it helps you for a while. Then it is back to old self again. Life, we should be happy to have it, but why oh why cant i get my ass in gear and feel better. Everything is just too much effort, and no sleep at night does not help either. I some days wish i could be chosen for a make over program! LOL Knowing you do not have money to give to your kids for something nice or their birthdays, They are in England and the my salary in South African Rand cannot contribute..... From being the super mom they could not live without you are now suddenly the invisible lady in SA.. The only thing i am proud of is my kids. The rest is just dust blowing in the wind..... Oh and i am on Anti-Depressants and menopause meds.. but yeah who cares

Expert's Reply


Depression expert
- 2020/02/25

Hi Keonie,
Well, I care, and I'm sure you care ( or you wouldn't have worked at it so hard ) ; that's more than enough. I salute all the hard work you have done over all this time, seeking to understand and deal with the ennui you have been experiencing. Sometimes Depression is a part of it, or sometimes a more stubborn condition called Dysthymia, a usually milder more more drawn out variety.
I also wonder whether what would most benefit you, and match your personal style, would be a particular variety of counselling called CBT, Cognitive Behaviour Therapy, which helps you to examine and revise the long-term habits of thought and behaviour which are not proving fruitful for you, and which you can revise and refine with real benefit

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