Posted by: Lee | 2017/11/06


Lonely and depressed.

Hi. I am 27 years old female and have never had a good friendship . recently I have notice I cant really keep a freindship or even have a friendship with any female. it seems to me most people do not enjoy my company, if the do it only last for a couple of weeks, 2 max . I try so hard to fit in,and make new friends. this is starting to affect me big time as I even cant seem to make friend with my female Colleagues or neighbours. I feel like i am the problem , the must be something i am doing wrong or not doing at all. this is staring to affect me big time, especially now as i am recently engaged and wish to share this moment with a friend/ friends. I am starting to feel very depressed about this and at times feel lonely. dont know what to do,

Expert's Reply


Depression expert
- 2017/11/09

Hello Lee,
Be cautious of the language you choose to use, which can become unhelpful instructions to yourself. Don't tell yourself that you cannot keep a friendship, but that you haven't managed to do so, thus far. 
Sometimes your sort of experiences mean one lacks some social skills on can learn from a counsellor, and sometimes it's that one comes to try a bit too hard, which can worry other people. If you have recently become engaged, doesn't this mean that you have managed to form one rather special friendship, with your fiancee ? 
The best course of action would b to see a good local psychologist or rgistred counsellor, to explore this problem : how it arose, how it has affected you, and how this can be changed for the better, as I'm sure it can.

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