Updated 18 October 2013

Are you enabling an addict?

You could be making it possible for a partner or a child to continue drinking, drugging or gambling. Do you recognise yourself?

Are you lying awake at night worrying about your partner or child's drug, alcohol, or gambling problem? Do you make excuses for this person, do you cover up for this person or do you lie to others - such as employers - to not let this person look bad?

  • You constantly ask yourself what you did to contribute to this situation
  • You cover up your real feelings by pretending you don't care, or don't notice someone else's destructive habit
  • You spend a large portion of your time thinking about this person and their habit and what you can do about it
  • You have become suspicious where this person is concerned - you watch what they do, where they go and check to see that nothing is missing
  • You constantly feel anxious, waiting for the next outburst or drama
  • You find yourself bargaining with this person or threatening them
  • You know that too much emotional energy is focused on this person, their habit and its consequences rather than on yourself and your life
  • You are constantly trying to make things better, but nothing works
  • You are being lied to and deceived on a constant basis, but you find yourself wanting to believe what is being said to you
  • You often end up footing the bill and being out of pocket


  • Nar-anon - Helpline - 0881296791 (For family and friends affected by someone's drug problem
  • Nar-ateen - Helpline - 0881296791 (For teenagers with drug addicted parents)
  • Tough Love - 0861 868445 (Support group for parents of drug addicts)
  • Al-Anon - 0861 252666
  • Codependents anonymous 0825684806


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