Posted by: Anonymous | 2009/05/01


To get help?

I think my boyfriend may have ADD/ADHD. Except for the fact that he is a genius, not lazy, always on time. He cant sit still. When he is on the phone he has to walk up and down. He never finishes one thing and start with another he always try to do 3 or more things at the same time. He will be " listening "  to me, while listening to music, while studying, while surfing the net. Not doing it at the same time but also not focusing on one thing at a time. So sometimes it gets done and sometimes just half-way. This is a every minute of the day thing. Every day. Driving me crazy. And he' s obsessed with his PC ( although he is a programmer ) I cant get him to switch off. Should he go to the doctor. It has a effect on my life and it has an effect on his life, especially his sosial skills. Please advise. Thank you.

Expert's Reply


ADHD Expert

Dear Anonymous,
From what you have written it is possible that your boyfriend has ADHD; however, the only person who can decide on a doctor's appointment is him. It seems to me that you have only his best interest at heart and would be there to support him. Having said this, walking up to him and saying "I think you have ADHD, here's the doctor's number" may be very upsetting to him, especially if his multi-tasking, although not always effective, does not bother him; this would need to be handled very sensitively. The Attention Deficit and Hyperactivity Support Group of South Africa can provide brochures on ADHD and the various types of treatments available as well as contact details of doctors/therapists. They can be contacted on (011) 888 7655 or or
Kind regards,

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