Posted by: Jola | 2008/08/07



I dont know were to go any more. My girl is 2 years old she' s a very busy little body. I dont know what to do because what ever I will do or say she' s just ignors me. Let say I ask her to come and dress in the mornings she will always say: no mommy I will ask her to sit in the bath and not stand she will say: no mommy. For ever and a day I can repeat myself and I try to speak nicely to her and sometime shout at her (most of the time when I cannot cope with the chalenge) or even give her a smack when is just to much and than I feel so guilty because that was' nt what I want to to do or say. I dont know how I can convince her to do what is requaire. She cannot just do what she want' s to all the time in my mind there is a time for playing as to eat bath and change the nappies. What would you recommend for us as a solution for this constat problem. This carries on for ever????????????Should I just go and see a psyhologist?? Please help am desperet and very down!

Expert's Reply


ADHD Expert

Dear Jola,
The 'terrible twos' is a very trying time for any mom. At this time your daughter is trying to establish her own identity. Different tactics work with different children, but you may want to try giving her her independence: not changing her nappy until she comes to you. Unfortunately by this time there will more than likely be nappy rash. It may seem cruel and it is very difficult to step back, but the idea is that she will understand there are still things she cannot do herself. There is a wonderful parenting book called 'Parenting with Panache' by Dereck Jackson which may be useful. Best of luck.
Kind regards.

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