Dear Charl vb,
Low self esteem is very common among children with ADHD; school has generally been difficult for them and they feel they are not as clever as their peers.
Similarly, your feelings are very common among the parents, but they are unfounded. Every parent wishes the best for their children and the very fact that you have provided him an education environment with smaller classes is evidence of that.
Giving your son clear boundaries, routine and consequences for breaking the boundaries or routine will help level his behaviour.
Boundaries and routines can be provided verbally or visually, the latter usually works better with younger children. A chart with 'dinner time' on the top and pictures of sitting quietly at the table, saying please and thank you, etc.
You can make a chart for the situations where disruptive behaviours are most common and make a booklet which is easily accessible. Let him help you decorate it and make it a book for the whole family, not just him.
It is essential that everyone in the family behave according to the booklet, and everyone has a consequence if they don't. In this way, you can model the correct behaviour for him; if shouting is something that is not allowed, and mom or dad shout, they have a consequence of not being able to watch TV tonight.
Be careful no to allow your son to manipulate this and become the parent, dishing out consequences to you.
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