Posted by: Rusty | 2008/07/09


Could this be my problem?

All my life I have been an underachiever. I skated through school without opening a book, with my parents constantly nagging me to study.

I would take up a sport or new activity, only to be bored with it a week or less down the line. Later on my parents became angry and upset with me for being a "Lui seun" They always said I had so much potential, but that I am just a lousy boy who "gets everything on a silver platter".

These ways have stayed with me. The funny thing is that I can keep a job. Right after school I went through a job each month, and I started to worry that I will never be able to get a job. 7 years ago I got a good stimulating job and I have been here the last 7 years. But everything else in my life is done halfheartedly asif I have too much that I want to do, and ultimately I never get around to doing anything.

I have never thought I might have a mental issue, but 3 weeks ago I decided to study towards a really complicated IT certification. I understand the work, but my mind wanders as soon as I get to 10 minutes of studying.... next thing I know I am somewhere else doing something else. I have started using marijuana as I find it helps me focus, and I can get more done while being stoned...... but this is not how I want to spend the rest of my life, in a pool of sweet smoke and a spaced out head.

This is starting to affect my life and my family (the possible ADD) and I know I can reach better heights in my life, I can accomplish so much more, but it is as if I am genetically programmed to fail.

Am I just lazy as my parents said, or might I have a real issue that can be sorted out?

Expert's Reply


ADHD Expert

The fact that you have been able to keep a 'stimulating job' for the past seven years seems to indicate you are not lazy. What is more interesting to me is not that you have kept the same job for some time, but that you use the word 'stimulating'; it seems you have realised that for something to hold your atention, you need to be interested in it.

I wonder if you have seen your GP with your concerns of ADD? Your GP will be able to refer you to a psychologist who can assess you and make a diagnosis if there is one to be made, and give you various options of how to treat it which may involve a change in diet, medication and/or an excercise based programme to name a few.

I am concerned with the use of marijuana as a method of coping. Although this may appear to help in the short term, long term use of marijuana can affect ones memory, ability to concentrate and problem solve and can negatively impact the learning process. An appointment with your GP would start the ball rolling; keeping yourself interested is the next step to finding solutions to your questions.

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Posted by: nicname | 2008/08/19

Read: " Delivered from Distraction"  - available on and amazon

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