Posted by: Shaiden | 2008/08/07


Busy Toddler

Should i be worried??

My two year old son is very busy, he is always running around, and loves playing. He can however sit and just draw a picture and build a tower of blocks ( but loves to break it down afterwards). When in a playgroup, he will get very angry if he cant get his way or the toy he wants and will retaliate by pushing the kids or hitting them. When we attend kindermusiek he will only really listen and concentrate for the first 15 min after that he is more worried about the treat he is going to get in the end and battles to concentrate and listen to the women. Do i have anything to worry about, or is this normal for a two year old boy..

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ADHD Expert

Dear Shaiden,
At this young age there is unfortunately no assessment that can be done to determine whether your son is ADD/ADHD. The fact that he can sit and colour or build blocks is a good thing, however, can he do these activities quietly or is there much running commentary or getting up and sitting down again? His seeming aggression toward others may be an area of concern, or it may simply be his way of demonstrating his independence. In either situation he needs to be taught that this is not an appropriate way to deal with conflict. Perhaps he should not get a treat at the end of the lesson if he has not earned it; this will teach him that concentration and hard work gets the reward, not simply being present (although initially he will resent this idea and probably act out more than before). Encourage him to play stimulating games, some that require much energy exertion like a treasure hunt over a large area, and some that require sitting quietly like a computer game (be sure to get something that requires a lot of thinking or he is likely to get bored, but not too difficult that he gets frustrated). Ensure you praise all his good behaviours to reinforce these as much as possible.
Kind regards.

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Posted by: Shaiden | 2008/08/11

Thank you so much for you reply..

At what age can they be tested?? Is there anything i can possibly do now to prevent it becoming add/hd.. He can sit still and just draw without talking, he does however like to show me what he has done and then will reutrn to go and draw a second picture.. About the aggression what can i do to make him understand that he is hurting the other kids. I have tried taking him out the situation and puttin him in timeout. I have even spanked him which i know is not the best thing to do but sometimes i just dont know anymore what to do..

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