Any number of things might run
through your mind during sex – and hopefully all of them are a version of
"this is amazing".
now and then – in addition to random thoughts, like "did I remember to turn
the oven off?" – you'll realize that, crap, you feel like you need to pee.
Mood killer, amiright?
Why do I feel like I have to pee?
M.D., a gynaecologist in New York, says there are a number of things that might
contribute to the feeling that you need to run to the bathroom. Chief among
them? You had to pee before sex and didn't realise it until you were already getting
hot and heavy.
that pressure on the bladder – whether it's from thrusting or because you decided
to try a more creative sex position – can make you realize you need to
dryness, as well as sensitivity to a lubricant or condom, might also cause
irritation and swelling around the urethra, and subsequently lead to the urge
to pee, says Dweck. In order to figure out what the root cause is, Dweck
recommends eliminating potential irritants, then reintroducing them one at a
time to see if symptoms resolve (or worsen). (Just don't eliminate the condom!
Try experimenting with other brands.)
Weak pelvic floor muscles (say hi to Kegels)
may also be the culprit behind that need-to-pee feeling. According to the
National Institutes of Health, nearly
one-quarter of women in the United States are affected by pelvic floor
disorders, leading to incontinence,
general discomfort, and a need for reduced activity.
Do I actually have to pee or
am I about to orgasm?
you need to pee during sex could also indicate that you're about to orgasm.
Before you cut and run to the restroom, consider waiting it out a bit – as long
as you aren't in pain.
there's also female ejaculation. Research shows 10 to 54% of women experience female
ejaculation during sex, or a gush or clear fluid that, well, can feel a lot
But is it actual pee?
"Some feel it's just urine, while others say the fluid has a different
chemical makeup," says Dweck. It's true: Some experts think the fluid comes from the Skene’s glands (tiny
glands surrounding the urethra), while others say that it’s just urine. Others
say it's both, including one study in the Journal of Sex Medicine. So yeah,
that one's still up for debate.
What can I do if I feel like I have to pee
of all, make sure you pee before sex next time.
Otherwise, you can try to hold it, or just take a T.O. from your bedroom sesh.
But if you
think female ejaculation is behind your urgency, you might want to roll with
it, says Dweck, adding that "some women opt for water play – such as sex in
shower or bath – so it's masked."
even throw some toys in the mix to stimulate
your G-spot (which might encourage squirting) or by trying different positions.
(Sex therapist and sexologist Alex Robboy told Women's Health woman-on-top
positions are ideal for achieving female ejaculation.)
Should I be worried about my health if I
always have to pee during sex?
you constantly feel like you need to pee during sex (or you're always leaking),
then you might be dealing with an underlying health issue, like a urinary tract infection (UTI). Dweck says urgency,
the frequent need to urinate (and a burning sensation when you do), and
symptoms that worsen during sex are all hallmarks of a UTI. A fever, blood in
your urine, back pain, a foul smell, and chills are all signs that it's time to
see a doc.
This article was originally published on www.womenshealthmag.com
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