Updated 13 June 2013

The financial reality of becoming a parent

Fiona, a Liberty staff member and client, shares her story of the unexpected curved balls she and her husband had to negotiate as they became parents.


When we discovered we were expecting twins, I made plans to take additional unpaid leave on top of my maternity leave. We budgeted for a night nurse and a bigger car. We thought we had it all mapped out.

However, at 35 weeks we discovered that one of the twins had died, and I was rushed in for an emergency caesarean section to save the other one. The surviving twin was transferred to ICU.

I could not face seeing other happy moms when I had lost a child, so I opted for a private ward. Our medical aid did not cover the costs of this, but it was worth it for us, under the circumstances. Still, along with additional medication for thrush as result of all the antibiotics I had to take, we clocked up R9 000 of bills we had not expected.

The gift of funeral cover

As part of my employer’s insurance package, I had opted to take funeral cover. At the time my husband had laughed, but – who would have thought? – we were so grateful that we had taken it out. The policy paid out within 24 hours, and being able to give our little boy a proper burial was a gift. When you are in an emotional state, not having to stress about the costs is a relief. Now my husband, the sceptic, wants to take out additional funeral cover to provide for our parents.

Life cover was a non-negotiable

As part of my maternity leave plan, I reduced my premiums on my pension and retirement annuity contributions but I have reinstated these since coming back to work. I made sure I maintained my life cover and now that I have returned to work both my husband and I have increased our life cover benefits to provide for our son.

Education costs start early

While I was still pregnant with the twins we put their names down at four schools in our area. This cost us R2 000. On acceptance, we will have to pay between R3 500 and R7 000 as an upfront admission fee. 

We have started an education policy for our son and have asked our families to contribute to an investment fund for him rather than buying him gifts for his baptism.

Unbudgeted costs are a debt wish

Although we had some idea of the financial costs of having a child, we ended up spending more than we expected and we had to take on debt and postpone buying a family car. Also, taking time off work has set us back financially. We spent R40 000 on all the paraphernalia that goes with having a baby – like a cot and pram and general baby items.

One of the unexpected financial shocks was that I was unable to cut my employer’s contribution to the provident fund so I had to maintain payments during my unpaid leave. I also had to pay for our full medical aid, and the premium had increased because of the new dependant.

I then fell pregnant unexpectedly just five months later. Although it was a wonderful surprise, it has added to our financial pressures and I needed to go back to work earlier than planned.

Managing the finances

We have had to review our lifestyle, especially with another baby on the way. We are focusing on getting out of debt and will have to get smart with our holidays. Rather than going overseas to visit family, we will house-swop with my parents in Durban, who will give us free accommodation and the use of their car. Eating out is now a thing of the past and I have to think twice before I purchase something – usually I land up putting it back on the shelf!

The hardest part of not earning an income was the guilt factor. People kept saying I should do things for myself, but I found myself spending only on necessities for the household.

On reflection

One of the things I would have done differently would be to buy a less expensive house with a lower mortgage and proper domestic quarters.

On the other hand, I am glad that I took the time to establish myself in my career and at my company. I had time to prove myself so they have been able to be more flexible. They know I will catch up my time and do what it takes to get the job done.

My strategies to stay the financial course

These are my hard-learned best pieces of advice for when you’re feeling financially stressed:

Keep up your retirement contributions. If you cannot afford to, then you need to boost your retirement savings once you begin working again. If you take five years off work at the age of 35, you will need to contribute 18% of your salary to your retirement savings when you return to work in order to retire comfortably.

Never cash in your retirement savings. As tempting as it may be to settle debts, if you cash in your retirement fund at the age of 30 you will have to save 23.4% of your salary to retire comfortably. Rather work out a debt repayment plan through your monthly budget and bonus windfalls.

Protect your earnings. Your company life cover is the cheapest way to make sure you can provide for your children, but don’t ignore disability or critical illness cover. This is vital even for stay-at-home moms. If you are disabled or become critically ill, your family will have increased medical costs to carry. Your partner may also have to cut his working hours to care for you and the family.

(Material provided by Liberty Group, June 2011)

(Picture: mom and baby from Shutterstock)

Liberty Group is an Authorised Financial Services Provider in terms of the FAIS Act (Licence no. 2409). The information contained in this communication, including attachments, is not to be construed as advice in terms of the Financial Advisory and Intermediary Services Act of 2002 ("FAIS") as the writer is neither an appointed representative of Liberty, nor a licensed financial services provider as contemplated in FAIS. Please consult your financial adviser should you require advice of a financial nature and/or intermediary services.



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