Our expert says:
I hear your grief and anxiety, but there are maybe some reasons why thsi situation is as it is. Trying to conceive a baby is extremely cheap - that's, sadly, why so many people have babies when they don't want and can't afford children.
Until relatively recently, for the many people who CAN'T conceive easily, there was often nothing at all that could be done, and they were just advised to adopt or adjust.
Then a range of fertility treatments became available, and one's expectations changed. Even though they definitely do not work in many cases, there was now hope where there had not been any, and maybe a slightly unrealistic expectation that all fertility problems could be solved, so long as one could get to a clinic and could afford treatment. ( the treatments are expensive for many reasons, not only that scarcity of anything tends to drive up prices - the materials and drugs needed, and the amount of highly specialized time used, are expensive, too) .
I understand your call for municipal fertility clinics in every city, but that doesn't happen even in very much richer countries than ours.
There aren't enough gynae and hormone specialists in the country by a very long way, and there are many other problems, some life-threatening, which they are needed to deal with, as well. I'm certain there would not be enough of the right specialists to set up even a few more clinics ; and, frankly, those specialists would prefer to work in private practice where they're treated much better than in state services, and where they would earn far more. If they would be paid by the state at private practice rates, the health budget would be able to afford very little else, and many other valuable services would have to be shut down.
There are many other areas of health care very much needed by many people.
I suspect its people with middle level incomes who suffer most in the situation you describe - if one is richer, one can afford private treatment. If one is porer, one might get some help from the state health service - and if one is a really poor family, maybe one can't really afford children.
Life isnt fair. Of course it isn't fair that some of us can't conceive. It isn't fair that some of us get cancer, or have heart attacks or strokes. It isn;t fair that some of us, by birth or accidental damage, are crippled and handicapped with major difficulties in leading even a very modest and ordinary life. Those are very sad realities, and we have to find a way to come to terms with the limitations life places on us.
Counseling can sometimes help us to come to terms with our lot in life, even though that may seem to you very much a second prize, and little comfort.
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