Posted by: Shelly | 2005/07/21


If you are involved with someone who had an affair while he was married, got divorced after but you not the one he cheated with, plus when you met him he had quite a few women in his little black book, etc., if you are in the same situation, do you guys wonder what he gets up to especially if you know he has email firends and some of these women still call him to see how he is, plus you have been cheated on by many but not him so is it just a case of being suspiscious on my side? he has been true to me for the last 2 years in our relationship, or so he says but nothing really bad has happened between us, we see each other over the weekend and maybe get together once during the week. should i not worry about what he does?

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Posted by: Buzz | 2005/07/21

He had one affair which he told you about (at least he was honest enough to tell you!), he got divorced and had many lady friends, what is wrong with that? If he's never given you reason to suspect him otherwise, surely it's unfair to judge him now for things he did to another woman, once, long ago! If your relationship is serious, and him e-mailing lady friends is bugging you, then you should discuss it with him. If however, it's not that serious and he hasn't made a commitment to you, you can't expect him to break contact with all his other lady friends.

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Posted by: SR | 2005/07/21

Shelly = Star is correct. Trust him until he gives you reason not to trust him. You know the signs, you have been down that road before.

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Posted by: Star | 2005/07/21

The day you stop worrying is the day you stop caring. Just don't be crouding him and too suspisious. You cannot hold a persons past against him forever. You either forgive and forget or you'll be fighting.

Do you have any reason since you have been together to think other wise? then don't.

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