Our expert says:
It can be immensely frustrating finding a partner and I have no doubt that some people do play games/act hard to get and so on. It is complicated when you are a little more mature, know what you want for yourself and already have a busy professional life; as most of the women you will be dating will be in a similar boat. If you are a little older, then it makes sense that you are going to meet women who have had difficult breakups, and some who haven't. That now comes with the territory and so you have to just face that unfortunately.
I think that you should feel free act as you are comfortable to act, in other words, send messages or call when you want to (within respectful limits - i.e. not the middle of the night), say if you are not interested in friendship but rather want a relationship. Rather than trying to read minds, why don't you just ask her how she feels about you calling as you do, or ask her why she appears to screen her calls. Whilst you may be right, you may also be assuming too much that her actions are about you (e.g. she may be screening calls from someone else, not you! she may be busy and not able to return an sms). It seems like you are being a little hard on yourself; you need to relax and let be what will be. Ultimately your partner need to know who you are if she is going to see whether you 'fit' her or not (she can't do this if you are playing a part). The reverse is true too, you need to see if she is going to 'fit' you and if you think she doesn't, then you can vote with your feet.
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